Setting Boundaries: A Guide for Givers

Are you a giving person? Are you the go-to person when something needs to be done? Are you quick to say "Yes" because you know you're capable of completing the project or meeting the need?

If this sounds like you, then this article has found you for a reason. Setting boundaries is crucial to our happiness, peace, and fulfillment in life. Without them, we're just aimlessly floating around, allowing others to dictate our lives. You are worth more than that. You get one opportunity to live, and it should be a life you love waking up to. Start taking charge of your life and being intentional with your time.

To begin setting boundaries that work for you, you'll need to take some time to reflect on how you're spending your time and how it's affecting your quality of life. Ask yourself:

- What have you said yes to in the last week?

- What were the pros and cons of these commitments?

- How do you feel about the things you took on?

- Are you satisfied and joyful when thinking back on them, or resentful and frustrated?

- How did you benefit from what you committed to?

- Would you do it again?

Once you take time to consider these questions, you'll naturally begin to formulate boundaries and values. Think about what you value most, then prioritize these values. From your values, you'll begin to discover a list of do's and don'ts—what you will and will not allow in your life. This also applies to how you expect to be treated. How do you want to be spoken to? What is acceptable when people interact with you? Often, this stems from your core beliefs about yourself. Do you believe that you are valuable? What makes you valuable? What makes you worthy of respect?

When considering these questions, we often default to what society has taught us: "I am valuable because of my skill set and the work I do. I am worthy because I make x amount of money, I have x amount of assets, etc." The truth is, you are worthy because you exist. There is only one of you ever in existence. You are one of a kind, no duplicates. What you bring just by showing up as yourself is a gift. You are a miracle. You are valuable. The baseline is your existence. Everything beyond that is just extra. We all deserve to be heard, seen, and understood just because we exist in the world. When we start to view ourselves for who we really are, it changes how we show up and what we tolerate and don't tolerate. We also begin to understand what we are capable of.

Once you have taken the time to clarify your boundaries, the hard work begins. Now you must make them known and hold them. The people in your life are going to need time to adjust. You have taught them for many years what they can expect from you, and now you are changing the rules. Expect pushback. When this happens, you have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. You'll have to have hard conversations and say no. Many people in your life may be there because of your willingness to be used. Those people, in particular, are going to make it the hardest for you to hold your boundaries. You may find that you need to walk away from some people completely, while with others, you'll need to distance yourself until they can accept this new version of you. On the other hand, expect new people to show up in your life who are ready and willing to accept your boundaries. The nice thing about these new relationships is that they will be mutually beneficial. You will be receiving as well as giving. This may feel strange and uncomfortable as well because it's outside your norm, but stick with it and it will eventually become your new normal.

Setting and holding boundaries is hard work for givers, but the rewards are immeasurable. Imagine a life where you feel respected, valued, and in control of your time and energy. A life where your relationships are balanced and fulfilling, and where you wake up each day excited about what lies ahead. This isn't just a dream – it's entirely within your reach.

But you don't have to navigate this journey alone.

Take the first step towards transforming your life today by booking a FREE consultation with Jen, your dedicated boundaries coach. In this powerful session, you'll:

- Gain clarity on your core values and what truly matters to you

- Identify the areas of your life where boundaries are most needed

- Learn practical strategies to start implementing boundaries right away

- Discover how professional coaching can accelerate your personal growth

Don't let another day pass feeling overwhelmed, undervalued, or taken for granted. You deserve a life that honors your worth and respects your time. Jen is ready to guide you on this life-changing journey, offering the support, tools, and accountability you need to succeed.

Invest in yourself today. Your future self will thank you.

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