10 Ways to Stay Single and Empowered on Valentine's Day

It's Valentine's Day! The one holiday when being single can make you feel less than but I'm here to help you see that being single on Valentine's Day can actually be empowering.

1. No Pressure

Being single on Valentine's Day means no pressure. You don't have to meet someone else's expectations for you that day. No planning the perfect date, buying the perfect gift, or guessing what the other person wants.

2. Save Money

Being single on Valentine's Day means you get to save money. Who doesn't love having extra money in their pocket? Instead of spending on a new outfit, dinner, flowers, candy, wine, a trip for 2, etc. you can pocket that money and treat yourself to a few things instead.

3. Treat Yourself - Get Exactly What You are Wishing for

Valentine's Day is the perfect day to show yourself some love. Take yourself out for your favorite coffee or take a little extra "me" time in the morning. Buy yourself flowers, perfume, chocolates, or whatever makes you feel loved and appreciated. Want to get the office talking? Send yourself flowers with a love note. If you're single, don't wait for someone to come along and fulfill your wants, take charge and make it happen for yourself. After all, life is short, and who's better to give yourself what you want and need than the person who knows you best? You'll get exactly what you were wishing for! Learn more about Self Love Here.

4. Date Yourself - Plan the Perfect Date for You

If you feel like you need to participate in a Valentine's Date night then make it work for you. Take yourself out to your favorite restaurant and own that table. Flip the narrative and people on dates will be feeling like they'd rather be eating solo like you. If you have never gone out and eaten alone it is worth the discomfort to make it happen.

Here are the advantages:

Order when and what you would like (no approval or waiting needed)
Dinner for 1 is cheaper than dinner for 2 so order the surf and turf.
Stay as long as you want or leave early
Spread out. You get the whole table to yourself.
Savor your drink and meal. Focus on each bite and sip and feel gratitude for the person who took the time to make it.
Take in the ambiance - notice and appreciate the music, the décor and the vibes. I like to think about the journey of the restaurant. All the planning, sacrifice, and courage that it took to create it, that first dollar earned, the accomplishment the owners must of felt, the thought and time that went into planning the layout, décor, and menu. Just so you can be here enjoying it.
Meet new people and talk to whoever you would like while you're out

Pro Tip: Follow this inner narrative to keep you feeling confident on a solo date, tell yourself what a great date you are (because you are), how good the food is, how blessed you are to be able to go out, how thankful you are for the hospitality of the server and venue and the ambiance, how beautiful or handsome you look, how jealous everyone else is that they have to be on a date with someone they may not even like and go through the motions 'expected' of them while you get to enjoy a night out on your terms.

5. Not Ready to Solo Date Quite Yet? Date Your Single Friends.

Not everyone is ready to step out into solo dating and that's okay. If you still want to go out and have a Valentine's Date Night then get some single friends together and go out. Romantic love is nice but friendships usually pack a bigger punch because they are more dependable and sustainable. Show your friends some love with a fun night out, or in, together.

6. Focus on Family

Valentine's Day is not just about romance. It's a fun holiday to celebrate with your kids or loved ones. If you're staying in run with the Valentine's theme and cook, craft, read, play games together, and watch a movie. Once you start theming out your night it will be hard to stop and your family will love it.

7. Focus on Community

Use Valentine's Day to show your community some love. Donate to a food bank, give something special to the homeless, visit a retirement home, and bring gifts. Give your time and attention to those who are lonely. It's amazing what a thoughtful conversation can do to brighten someone's day.

8. Random Acts of Kindness

Valentine's Day is a great time to do random acts of kindness. When you show kindness to others it makes you feel good. Smile at everyone you meet today. Hold a door open for a stranger. Be patient and courteous in line, in traffic, and everywhere else you go. Offer grace to yourself and others.

9. Focus on Faith

Learn about St. Valentine. After all, he's the reason we have this holiday. Saints, no matter what your religion is or isn't, can inspire us to live better. Becoming the best version of ourselves is a lifelong journey and one that can be fueled by faith in something higher and greater than ourselves.

10. Gratitude

One thing in this life that will pull you out of self-loathing is gratitude. Being single on Valentine's Day can make you feel inadequate or unloved if you choose but in reality, it is a beautiful opportunity to take in all you love about your single life. Number 1 is that you are ALIVE! You get another day on this earth to love, to fail, to grow, to experience, to care for yourself and others. You are blessed. You are enough. You are lovable.

Go out and make this your most empowering SINGLE Valentine's Day ever.

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